A finished person is a boring person.
All parents should be aware that when they mock or curse gay people, they may be mocking or cursing their own child.
America is a country that seems forever to be toddler or teenager, at those two stages of human development characterized by conflict between autonomy and security.
But it's important, while we are supporting lessons in respecting others, to remember that many of our youngest kids need to learn to respect themselves. You learn your worth from the way you are treated.
Even as we enumerate their shortcomings, the rigor of raising children ourselves makes clear to us our mothers' incredible strength. We fear both. If they are not strong, who will protect us? If they are not imperfect, how can we equal them?
Here is the real domino theory - gay man to gay man, bisexual man to straight woman, addict mother to newborn baby, they all fall down and someday it will come to you.
I once wanted to be a personage. Now I am comfortable being a person.
I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me.
I realized that, while I would never be my mother nor have her life, the lesson she had left me was that it was possible to love and care for a man and still have at your core a strength so great that you never even needed to put it on display.
I will never understand people who think that the way to show their righteous opposition to sexual freedom is to write letters full of filthy words.
I would be most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves.
I would be the most content if my children grew up to be the kind of people who think decorating consists mostly of building enough bookshelves.
I would even go to Washington, which is saying something for me, just to glimpse Jane Q. Public, being sworn in as the first female president of the United States, while her husband holds the Bible and wears a silly pill box hat and matching coat.
I'm sure not afraid of success and I've learned not to be afraid of failure. The only thing I'm afraid of now is of being someone I don't like much.
Ideas are like pizza dough, made to be tossed around.
Ideas are only lethal if you suppress and don't discuss them. Ignorance is not bliss, it's stupid. Banning books shows you don't trust your kids to think and you don't trust yourself to be able to talk to them.
If God had meant Harvard professors to appear in People magazine, She wouldn't have invented The New York Review of Books.
If I get the forty additional years statisticians say are likely coming to me, I could fit in at least one, maybe two new lifetimes. Sad that only one of those lifetimes can include being the mother of young children.
If you want something, it will elude you. If you do not want something, you will get ten of it in the mail.
Ignorant free speech often works against the speaker. That is one of several reasons why it must be given rein instead of suppressed.
In the family sandwich, the older people and the younger ones can recognize one another as the bread. Those in the middle are, for a time, the meat.
Life is not so much about beginnings and endings as it is about going on and on and on. It is about muddling through the middle.
Look back, to slavery, to suffrage, to integration and one thing is clear. Fashions in bigotry come and go. The right thing lasts.
New York City has finally hired women to pick up the garbage, which makes sense to me, since, as I've discovered, a good bit of being a woman consists of picking up garbage.
People always blame the girl; she should have said no. A monosyllable, but conventional wisdom has always been that boys can't manage it.