It's terrible. You can't trust anyone anymore.
Financially, it's put a strain on us. You don't expect one of your kids to die before you, but it does happen. My advice is, you have to be prepared.
I think that's when he came into his own. He found out who he was, and he opened up more to us kids. He became not only our father, but our friend. Even the gifts he gave us were more heartfelt, more personal.